If behavior during a trip to the park or zoo or other special place was a problem, we just went home. It was that simple.
If there were problems playing with a particular toy, the toy was put a way.
Discipline has always seemed easier to swallow and more effective in changing behavior long term when it made sense to my kids. When they understood the cause and effect.
So when playing games on his computer seemed to be distracting my boy from his homework last semester, I decided to do things differently this semester.
No computer except for homework for the rest of the school work. And that homework has to be done on the family computer where we can see him. He's lost the privilege to do it in his room where he could click back and forth between assignments and Hulu.
And actually he took it pretty well. Because the consequence was a logical result of his inability to discipline his own computer use.
What I didn't bank on was the consequences for me. Here it is 10:52 PM and my boy has just gotten off the family computer, having finished math and science. I am only now beginning to write, something I would have started hours ago had my son been able to hole up in his room with his computer and his homework and his Hulu and his games.
But this, though I am already bleary eyed, is better.
His homework is done. And hopefully done well.
Yes, this is logical. Consequences and all.
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